The summer of 2007 was a very strange and difficult time of my life – my early twenties. I had recently turned 25, lost my long term job that I loved but was killing me, and had met a friend with a heart like mine, only to lose him a few months later when that heart suddenly failed him. I spent a long time on my couch feeling sorry for myself, a really long time. My best friend and roommate would go to work, leaving me in my pajamas on the couch and come home 12 hours later to discover me in the exact same place. It wasn’t my best moment. To say I was floundering would be kind, I think some may have even called this my personal quarter life crisis. 

Enter stage right a wild haired baby boy, who would give me the name that I wear with most pride, Aunt Mo. I don’t want to overstate the importance of this little man’s birth, but it is pretty easy to say that his arrival was the catalyst for a lot of change in my life. There was this moment after my nephew was born that due to a series of unfortunate events, he and I ended up in a hallway together. My sister, her husband, our mother and a nurse were all in the new hospital room where the new party of three had been moved because of construction noise and somehow this left my hours-old nephew and I alone together for the first time. He was wide awake, and taking in the world around him, tufts of unruly hair peeking out from underneath his tiny hat. He smacked his mouth, made little squeaks, and waved his arms around. He was so small, and his eyes so wide. That moment has always felt very important to me. At that moment I knew two things, I wanted to be around this tiny human as much as my sister would let me, and that in order to be around this tiny human I was going to have to get my poop in a group. Depending who you ask, that is what I did, at least comparatively. 

This is all to tell you that,  of all the things I am, being his, and his cousins (and that previously mentioned  roommate/best friends two boys) Aunt Mo is my absolute favorite thing to be. It changed my make-up and truly the course of my life. Suddenly it wasn’t just about me, I had this little dude who lit up every time I showed up at his house, who reached for me when other people were holding him, who learned my name quickly after mama and dada. I spent a lot of my teens and twenties fighting against my health challenges, avoiding the doctor as much as I could, not taking my meds how I should be, living my life in less than healthy ways. I had a live fast die young kind of attitude. I really didn’t believe I would be around that long, so I didn’t do a whole lot to help myself out, until my nephew came along. He made me want to try the next thing, the new med, the next fix. Where I was once bitter and angry, I was optimistic and hoping for any solution that meant I got as much time as I could possibly have with this little dude that showed up one September afternoon and completely turned my world upside down. 

I write this all because I think it is an important piece in the puzzle of how I ended up here, a week away from seriously discussing heart transplant, and honestly not being very fearful. I was, for sure. That was the shock, and in some ways I suppose there is still some fear mixed in there, but more than anything I am excited. Everything I have said yes to over the last 15 years has been about having more years with my nephews. From the pacemakers, to the ICD, every heart cath, stent ballooning, ER trip, device shock, every test, every blood draw, every new medication, and every side effect has been in the pursuit of more time. More time for me yes, but in the beginning and still most largely for him, that crazy haired baby in the hallway that I knew I wanted to see grow into a man. And for the twin boys who came two years after him, who are my soul’s own twin, and my brilliant and delightful opposite. 

I know they are apprehensive about what is to come for me. It is only fair that they would be. I can’t promise them that everything will go exactly as I plan for it to go, but I have every intention of everything going right. I expect to be there when they graduate, get jobs, move away, try to lose touch and fail because I am an annoying and clingy aunt. I plan to be there as they become fully functional people. I hope one day, one of them has a house big enough for old Aunt Mo, to move in with her ancient Corgi and too many books. 

I am so proud of who they are. I am so thankful that they, as much as they can, understand that sometimes I need to borrow their moms, my sisters, because we are an important team. I hope that one day they feel as much a part of that team as I feel like they are. They are the best part of the team, the light part, the part that brings the joy and the laughs when everything else is too serious. I hope they know that their Aunt Mo loves them so much, that she learned to love herself too. I hope that they can be brave with me as we walk this road together. I hope they know that it is okay if we can’t always be brave, and it is okay to be scared, because even the scariest things aren’t that scary when you are on our team, and I am on their team always. I hope they know that more than anything else in the world, I am so glad to be their Aunt Mo and I plan to be there for them for a very long time.