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Vaguely Nauseated and Kicking Ass

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Next week, on September 18th, I will have been vaguely nauseated and kicking ass for six months. Vaguely nauseated? Yes. Zepbound, the weight loss, heart failure, diabetes prevention, fatty liver resolving, ADHD improving, OCD quieting medication I am on, is not all sunshine and weight loss. I spend about 3-4 days after my shot each week vaguely nauseous. Most of the time it is just a nagging unease in my stomach, but especially on weeks my dose is increased, it can make me so nauseated I become sick. It is absolutely still worth it, did you see all those things that studies are finding it improves? And I have all those things! 

This week I went to my transplant team in Omaha and saw my doctor for the first time in  six months. My last appointment was with his PA, so he has not had the pleasure of my company since the Zepbound and all of my efforts started. I say this with absolutely no irony, homeboy was darn near giddy with my improvement. My BMI has gone down significantly and is now within acceptability range for transplant. If you remember back to the end of December last year, I said this “If there is anything I have learned through this whole process it is that I shouldn’t bury the lede, so here it is, after being presented for a second time, my case for heart transplant remains on hold and I have not been listed…This is actually good news in its way, this means that I am stable and strong, and I can keep going without a transplant. Once again my weight plays a large factor in this decision, and I am again not angry about that, though I am a bit annoyed I didn’t have a shot at my new medication for a while before my case was presented.”

A more accurate representation of what that meant isn’t that I was stable and strong, it was that I was stable and too fat to get a heart that would be worth trading mine for.  It meant the heart I have currently is plenty strong if my choices of new hearts were going to be old and not particularly strong themselves. As much as blood type and antibodies come into play with transplant, so does size. If you are a 250 pound person you can only accept a heart within 10 pounds of your weight. If that weight is 250, the problem becomes anyone that is within that weight and not 6’2’ + is in the morbidly obese category themselves and not a great candidate to donate. If they are 6’2” or more the heart will likely be too big for my chest, even if it is a healthy heart. It is a whole Cinderella and the slipper situation. At the time I was relieved I was denied again, I truly want to keep this heart as long as I can, but I was also ticked off that I was not able to get the medication I needed to lose weight in time for it to affect the outcome of that particular transplant tribunal (everybody wants to win right, and nobody wants to be told they are chonky). 

Now, I have had that medication for 6 months. I have also been going to the gym three times a week for those 6 months, I have been watching every calorie going into my body for those 6 months, which means that I have lost the weight that was needed in order to be better qualified for transplant. To be ideal for transplant, I have another 50 pounds to go (this is not MY goal weight, if I get there great but I am not going to go nuts trying to achieve this weight, my goal is 20 more pounds). The thing is, I am feeling better. Apparently, people who eat right and exercise feel better? Seems fake, but okay. I have not cured my heart failure, but the blood test that indicates heart failure while not resolved is the lowest it has been in 5 years. Now my days don’t feel like punishment for living anymore – I was truly struggling before, and now while I am not the picture of health, I have a lot of my normal activity back. All of this to say I’ve unsheathed a double edged sword. 

In November I will have my VO2 Max test again. I have been below the cut off for transplant consideration in that test the last three times I have done it. An average person’s score is somewhere between 50-60. Mine is barely 13, and has been for some time. If I flunk again in November my doctor will now be able to put me forward for transplant and I will likely be approved. If that test doesn’t improve there will be no reason not to list me. 

Isn’t that good news?

It is. But it also isn’t…

I thought you wanted a new heart? I sure did.

And in ways I still do, but now that I understand the process more, I want that to be as far in the future as possible. My doctor said it in my last appointment, if I only want to be transplanted once in my life, then it would be great to wait as long as possible and be as healthy as possible in the meantime. If I am super honest I would love to ride into the sunset with the heart I came with but I also want to be around to see what kind of shenanigans my nephews get up to as adults, so it isn’t likely that this ticker is going out with the rest of me. I am not saying I should have stayed overweight to avoid transplant. I am saying, being overweight took it off the table. I am hoping that now I am healthier, I can put it near the back of the table, or over on the counter even. Anywhere not right in front of or on my plate. 

All of this comes down to that test I have in November. I don’t get to fail it again. I will pass or be put forward again. My goal is to get a 15, two points of buffer between me and that dreaded 13. My sky is the limit goal? 23. Ten glorious points away from the list. Proof that maybe I can exercise my way out of this after all or I can get nice and lean and otherwise healthy so my choices of hearts are better, and my recovery smoother. Until then, it is the gym for me. It is 1500 calories a day and 1800 on weekends. It is taking my meds and doing all I can to stay as healthy as I can. It is participating in my care so no one can say I didn’t try as hard as I could. Are you still with me? My cheerleaders have been my saving grace this whole time. Your support means so much to me, and motivates me to keep going. Thank you for being here. 

Until next time. 

One More Time With Feeling

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The thing about roller coasters is, after a steep drop and a straight away, they like to throw in a loop. The drop? My first appointment with the heart failure and transplant team, almost exactly one year ago to the day. The straight away? The holding pattern I have been in since then, where I test and I check-in and re-test and re-check. And now the loop, I am not going to say my last appointment was terrible, but I can’t say that it was the best I have ever had. I know the reality of congenital heart disease and congestive heart failure is more than likely a gradual decline over one’s lifetime. I have never expected to walk into the doctor’s office for them to check the tests and exclaim “You’re cured!”, my brain hasn’t even dared to dream that scenario so I am pretty sure I am on good terms with reality there. However, it is never easy to hear that you seem to be in a bit of decline, and it is even harder when both you and your team know there is very little to be done that we aren’t already. 

As I discussed in my last post, I was going into this appointment ready for reckoning, knowing that I have not been able to keep up with exercise since I have been back at work. I have gained back some weight I lost and am generally not where I had hoped to be at this appointment. I was ready to face the music. The music came I suppose but it wasn’t the tune I was expecting. My doctor is a lovely human who is always as gentle as he is frank. He was not at all shocked that I found it next to impossible to carry on the exercise regime I had been, and work full-time. He reminded me that based on my testing, I am “exercise intolerant” and “disabled from a cardiac standpoint”, he also reminded me that he had played all of his cards already. There are no more medications, I am on them all, and the highest doses. There isn’t another device (well there are a couple but no thank you, trust me) that is better than what I have. There really isn’t any more that the team can do short of transplant and he and I agree that we still want to keep that as far in the future as we can push it. 

Where does that leave me? Well, here comes the loop, the thing I was not at all prepared for – it is time for me to scale back my work load. It was a punch in the gut, almost more than the thought of transplant was. I know I complain about my job, it is true, teenagers are a pain in the behind, but they are also just complete dorks who make me laugh and can be super sweet and innocent, and so funny. I love what I do, I love working with kids who need a little extra love, a little extra help, and watching them learn and grow. Yes, sometimes they challenge me on the dumbest things, and pick weird hills to die on (as a matter of fact they will complain for longer than it takes to actually do the assignment), but dang it if I don’t enjoy the stubborn cusses. 

My doctor went on to explain that while he cannot add more hours for rest, and exercise into my day, he would like to suggest reallocating the hours I do have to best serve where I am currently. He knows I try my hardest with diet and exercise but I am limited. He knows that when I have the time to do what I am “supposed to” I do it religiously. So the proposition was, can I reduce my workday enough to have time to work, exercise and recover all in 24 hours without burning myself down to the wick. If I work five hours a day, instead of seven, can I do cardiac rehab, rest and recharge and repeat? You might be thinking, shouldn’t you use that extra time to JUST rest? Actually, no. For reasons I won’t go into because they kind of feel icky and weird, the size of my body at the time of transplant really matters. It isn’t in a fat shame-y way, it is in the best outcome kind of way. My fitness, and body size have a direct impact on how transplant and recovery will go, so it is also my job. I need to give it the same kind of time I would give a job, it could literally be a matter of life and death. Plus, there is the added benefit that there is still a chance that maybe, just maybe losing some of this pesky weight will make me feel better enough that I can put off transplant for a while longer, maybe even feel well enough to go back full time even before transplant happens. 

I have gone through the full spectrum of emotions this week about this. I did not want this to be the answer. I did not want to take more help than I already have been, from my family, from my friends, from my co-workers. I did not want to admit that the chronic “not feeling good” is actually the advancing of my disease. I have been angry that the systems in place to protect people in times like these are so fully protected by red tape, and that there are so many catch 22’s when it comes to what is best for a person’s care. Catch 22’s about insurance, where to get it, who can get it, who decides what, and why it never seems to be the doctors or patients. I have had a few break downs, deep profound sadness, feeling of loss, and mourning. I know I will be okay and that this is the right choice but it isn’t one I was planning to make and I have never been keen on my circumstances making choices for me. 

All that said, I leaned in. I marched my happy butt into the powers that be and I told them my situation. I asked for their help and they gave it, they will continue to give it. There are still some things to iron out and I found out along the way that I have some more big feelings to work on, but for right now I know that things will be okay. Monday I start my new reduced schedule, and get myself back into my self-led cardiac rehab. Coming out of the loop, I have some curves and hills to get through in the next few weeks. I will do a heart cath in the next couple of weeks, along with repeating some of the heart transplant testing to keep it current. After that I am hoping for another straight away.